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Episode 42: Toxic Positivity

Episode 42: Toxic Positivity

“You got this girl”, “Just look on the bright side”, “Positive vibes only”.  Today we dive into why these phrases might actually not be as helpful and beneficial as we think. In this episode Maryellen discusses a thing called toxic positivity!

Included in This Episode:

  • Maryellen explains why this type of positivity is toxic
  • She helps us identify places we might see it in our life. 
  • Lastly, Maryellen shares 5 big ways to combat and deal with toxic positivity.

Sharable Quotes:

  • “ Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset.”
  • “Feelings are meant to be felt. Feelings are not right or wrong, good or bad, they just are. Uncomfortable feelings are not always bad, just because it feels uncomfortable doesn’t mean we shouldn’t feel it. ”


Health Line: Toxic Positivity During the Pandemic

Science of People: Toxic Positivity

Also, be sure to check out some of the previous episodes that I mentioned in this weeks episode: Episode 21: Is Manifesting Really Worth It, Episode 19: Feeling and Showing Gratitude, and Episode 11: Understanding and Overcoming Trendy Therapy Terms.

Check out some of the new Okay-ish merchandise that just recently went live on the website!

Episode 40: Defense Mechanisms

Episode 40: Defense Mechanisms

This Okay-ish podcast episode is all about defense mechanisms. It’s a fun one because they are so interesting, we all have them, and it’s just a part of being human.

Included in This Episode About Defense Mechanisms:
Maryellen talks about the 8 different defense mechanisms that we can all relate to one way or another.
In this episode Maryellen explains:
– Denial
– Repression
– Projection
– Displacement
– Regression
– Sublimation
– Rationalization

Sharable Quotes:
– “When defense mechanisms get out of proportion that’s when things like anxiety, phobias, and obsessions develop”
– “Defense mechanisms serve the purpose of protecting a person from anxiety arising from unacceptable thoughts”

I hope you liked this episode! As always stay tuned for a podcast challenge and follow along on the Okay-ish instagram to stay up to date!

Episode 39: All About Trauma

Episode 39: Trauma

Curious about EMDR? Well let’s get one thing straight – it’s not hypnosis!
In this episode Maryellen dives into trauma and explains all about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.

Included in This Episode:
– Maryellen dives into discusses how our brain processes, or doesn’t process, events that happen to us including traumatic events.
– You will learn that trauma comes in all sizes like big T’s and little t’s – Maryellen will also explain the beneficial role that EMDR plays in processing traumatic events.

Sharable Quotes:
“the most important thing to be aware of is that we can experience trauma and work through it to become okay-ish”
“A certain event can happen to two people and one can develop PTSD and the other doesn’t”
“Anyone can have trauma, and that trauma doesn’t necessarily mean something horrible happened to you”

Useful Resources:
Check out the newly added ‘Resource’ page on the website!

I hope you liked this episode! As always stay tuned for a podcast challenge and subscribe to the Okay-ish Podcast Channel!

Episode 38: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder

Episode 38: Borderline Personality Disorder

Did you know that 75% of individuals diagnosed with BPD are women? May is borderline personality disorder awareness month, so what better way to kick off this month than to talk about it?

Included in This Episode:
– Maryellen first shares important facts to know about borderline personality disorder
– Maryellen then paints a picture of what someone with borderline personality disorder looks like and shares a little bit about her own experience meeting someone with borderline personality disorder.
– At the end of the episode Maryellen shares 4 insightful tips on things to do if you know someone with borderline personality disorder.

Sharable Quotes:
– “People with borderline are often the life of the party, they’re intriguing, and fun, and exciting, and they can be angry, rage-full, and very critical”
– “People with borderline are known for the ‘I hate you don’t leave me’ response”

Useful Resources:

Book Recommendations:
I Hate You Don’t Leave Me

Lastly, check out @maryellendance on instagram to see this weeks podcast challenge!

Episode 30: Mental Health in Kids

Maryellen gives a broad overview of childhood specific mental health disorders.

She begins by talking about ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). HINT: Not just kids are diagnosed with ADHD!! For more information on ADHD check out or

Maryellen briefly describes Conduct Disorder and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (more information is here)

She also includes chatting about Autism Spectrum Disorders which is a new diagnosis in the DSM-5. This is another disorder that not just kids are diagnosed with, but the diagnosis often begins in childhood. Check out all this information here!

The goal of this episode was not to explain all the details of these disorder (Maryellen just did a brief overview) but to point out that mental health disorders are often seen differently in children than adults but many childhood disorders continue into adulthood.

Interested in hearing less about kids and more about teenagers? Check out Episode 29.

Episode 29: Self Harm Awareness

March 1, 2020 was Self Harm Awareness Day. Maryellen teaches listeners about self harm in this episode and how to best support someone if you know they are self harming.

Maryellen shares some facts about self harm including that self harm is not the same as suicide. It’s actually often called “Non Suicidal Self Injury” (NSSI). There are a lot of different types of self injury, but the most common is cutting..