Those of us in New York State can relate to the sinking feeling we all had in our chests this past Friday, May 1st, when we found out that schools will be closed for the rest of the year…..I had a strong feeling that was going to happen, but that didn’t make it any better. Kids, seniors, retirees, teachers, school support staff…it’s pretty safe to say that no one was excited about this decision.
So I’m just going to say it…THIS SUCKS. It sucks It sucks It sucks. There is no denying it. It’s sad, it’s frustrating, it’s lonely, and did I say it just plain SUCKS?
I recently wrote a blog about how what you focus on grows and so it’s important to focus on the positive. Don’t worry, I still believe that. It’s SO important to be positive, to support each other, to look at what we’re thankful for.
That being said. We are all grieving. We are grieving the loss of jobs. The loss of people. The loss of events. The loss of hope.
It’s vitally important to LET ourselves grieve. Yes, we want to be positive, we want to look on the bright side…but we cannot ignore that this SUCKS and that we have LOST a lot.
Being sad, being frustrated is all part of the grieving process. In order to successfully grieve, to work through and process everything, we need to FEEL our feelings…the good, the bad, and the ugly feelings.
So how do we feel the nasty feelings while still focusing on all the positive crap?………..I’m glad you asked!
One of my favorite things to tell people is “It’s important to sit in your shit, just don’t set up camp there”…sit in the icky feelings, feel them, just don’t stay there all day, don’t pitch your tent there and stay for good.